Written on October 7th, 2009 at 12:10 am by Darren Rowse
3 Principles of Effective Communication
Do you want to learn to blog in a way that goes beyond just conveying information and helps people to take action on what you’ve written?
Last night as I was watching the new Australian version of The Apprentice I saw a very short segment featuring public speaker Brett Rutledge. The winners of a task were rewarded with a session with Brett to talk about communication and public speaking. The show only showed 30 seconds of Brett but in that very short snippet he said something that resonated with me.
He was talking about principles of communication in leadership – but I think it applies pretty well to bloggers. I’m paraphrasing here but what he said boiled down to this:
To communicate to me clearly you need to do three things:
- Give me a Message
- Make me Care
- Give me a Way to Remember it
I suspect there’s a lot of truth in that for leaders communicating in the business setting – but it rings true for me as a blogger wanting communicate effectively each day through my blog.
Lets explore each in turn briefly (this is of course my interpretation for bloggers on what Brett was getting at with his points).
Give them a Message
I suspect many bloggers work pretty hard on principle #1 – we craft our posts carefully and work hard on communicating clearly – but perhaps the other two elements are things that could lift posts to the next level in terms of getting people to actually take action on the things we write about.
Giving a message of course means we ourselves need to know what we’re trying to convey and what action we want readers to take at the end of posts. If we don’t know what we want people to do it’s pretty hard to get action.
It’s also about communicating clearly and giving people a call to the action we want them to take.
Make them Care
- When someone cares about what you’re writing – they have much more motivation to take action on it.
- When someone cares they’re more likely to tell someone else about it.
- When someone cares they’re more likely to respond to you with a comment.
Communicate something to someone who doesn’t care and you might as well not be communicating!
How do you make them care? I think it partly comes down to showing people how what you are sharing with people applies to them, how it will make some aspect of their life better, inspiring them with a picture of how things will be once they’ve done something – it’s about getting people in touch with their feelings, fears, motivations, values and desires and tying them to what you’re communicating to them.
Give them a Way to Remember It
Have you ever read or heard something that inspired you to go away and take some course of action…. only to promptly forget to do it? I do it all the time. Sometimes I don’t take action because I change my mind, sometimes it is because I get busy and sometimes I just forget to do it (I’m thinking to myself ‘I’m sure there was something else I had to do today).
It’s one thing to communicate clearly what you want and to get someone to care about it – but a whole other thing to get them to actually take the action. A big part of closing the deal is to give them a way to remember what it is you want them to do.
I’d love to hear Brett (or others) talk more about how he helps people to remember what you say – but I find that I have most success in ‘closing the deal with people when I give them something simple, achievable and immediate to do.



64 Responses to “3 Principles of Effective Communication” - Add Yours
Dave Doolin
October 7th, 2009 12:56 am
Now I feel compelled to go back through a bunch of my recent blog posts to see if I have these 3 principles implemented!
Blake @ Props Blog Reviews
October 7th, 2009 12:57 am
Getting someone to remember and take action is a huge challenge. Many business, marketing, and psychology books have been written on this topic. More will continue to be written as well because there isn’t just one way to do it.
This is a great reminder about important things to include in blog posts to help the reader get the most from your blog!
Web Marketing Tips
October 7th, 2009 1:08 am
Darren according to you which way will be suitable so that they keep remember your post.
I just involve their love ones so that they can imagine their faces … so far this one is really working to me. Sometime I leave some emotional wording as well.
Chris
October 7th, 2009 1:19 am
I try to get people involved by asking questions after the post. I can see what you mean about making them care though and it’s something I may put a little more emphasis on in the future. Without overdoing it of course.
Robert
October 7th, 2009 1:25 am
Give a message is a great first tip. Probably the most important, too. Great post.
Ben
October 7th, 2009 1:31 am
Giving the reader a way to remember it is quite hard I feel. It surely depends on the individual. An image may do it for some, whilst a punch-line or moral at the end may do it for others.
Mary Lutz
October 7th, 2009 1:33 am
These are very important tips to remember when blogging and as Blake commented, there isn’t just one way to do it. In addition, I believe the Internet is evolving every day, and so is the world of blogging, but these three components will always be important because we will always be trying to reach people with our words.
Rocky Garcia
October 7th, 2009 1:44 am
Getting to be remembered is the best way to improve any business especially in blogging. Every words you leave on each of your blog posts expands your brand for your blog.
David
October 7th, 2009 2:03 am
I think “making them care” is that part that most people miss out on. In my mind, all human beings want to be happy. So whatever you are telling me should in some way help me get further along towards happiness! Speakers should also appeal to where their talk fits into higher goals.
JoshuaElliot
October 7th, 2009 2:05 am
Communication is the way to success. All the great leaders can communicate, and they get the masses moving.
It goes the same for bloggers who want to make your readers do what is best for them.
Great post, Darren.
Ryan Biddulph
October 7th, 2009 2:25 am
Agreed Darren. Communication starts an effective message and is about closing with the “next step.” I’m firm believer that if you write with passion, people will care. They’ll be inspired by what you have to offer. It is on the individual blogger to strike this chord with people. When you’ve achieved this it’s up to you to leave the next step to them. You can’t force people but you can guide them. This is where creativity comes in.
RB
Broderick Durisseau
October 7th, 2009 2:33 am
If I put myself as a reader I would say what makes me care is if I feel connected to you in some way or you’re experiencing results I want. Then I’m all ears on how you did it and how I could do it too.
With remembering, I remember what’s different and what’s repeated a lot. I know there are posts I will never ever forget because they were so different from the way most posts are. Whether they were really sarcastic or super long and detailed or controversial or they solve a problem with extreme clarity.
And with repetition, I’ll probably always remember that when you’re building up a readership to “go where readers are already gathering” because you’ve repeated that a lot on here.
Also it could go back to #2. If I care enough, I’ll remember it.
Kevin
October 7th, 2009 2:54 am
Wow Darren!! Thanks for this, I’m in the middle of writing my post for the day and this just made me realize that I need to redo the post to get my message across more effectively. I am guilty as a blogger of writing something I would understand and not take into consideration what someone else would interpret and whether they would care! This is good stuff, thanks once again…….
Brandon Cox
October 7th, 2009 4:13 am
I really love what you’ve said about caring. It really requires us to think through our content before hitting the publish button!
Rick Zero Credit Card Game
October 7th, 2009 5:22 am
Short andto the point. wow give me a message, make me care and then what was the third one? oh ya give me a way to remember it.
Rick
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October 7th, 2009 5:24 am
I guess this would follow through with all advertising. Make a point, get them involved and help them remember it.
This really is a great thought.
Sam
Jannie Funster
October 7th, 2009 5:31 am
Photos, imho, especially ones you’ve taken yourself, if they are tied even remotely to the post content, will help the reader care about and remember your message. Be sure to state “photo by your humble blogger” or some such, so they realize your personal touch.
NorthandClark
October 7th, 2009 5:42 am
How can you talk in a way that people can remember?
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Also, is there a problem with your last headline:
“Give the a Way to Remember It”
Should that be them?
Bob Armour
October 7th, 2009 6:01 am
If you haven’t read “Made to Stick”, you should. It’s all about making your message memorable. Very entertaining and practical book. http://www.madetostick.com/
Dena
October 7th, 2009 6:19 am
I couldn’t agree more. It’s as though we each need to think about how WE like to be communicated TO before we try to communicate to others. That’s exactly what you’ve explained here.
Make them care – Give them something to help remember your message.
As a blogger and a life coach, you are truly spot on about these two things. They are crucial in the game of SUCCESSFUL communication.
Thanks for the insight and the excellent advice.
-Dena
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Katie
October 7th, 2009 6:30 am
Great post, thanks for tying these communication principles to blogging. Sometimes we forget the basics. I find that the most memorable lessons are the ones told through stories. If you can tell a story that gets your message across, it can help make an emotional connection that will make them care and stay with them longer.
Tom Wanek
October 7th, 2009 7:06 am
Give them a way to remember it…
1. Impact/relevancy
2. Repetition
The more relevant the message, the less repetition you’ll need (and vice versa)
Steve Bellante
October 7th, 2009 7:08 am
#4: Put it in list form.
It seems like people these days online and off are so busy, that any over lengthy paragraph is quickly forgotten. I find that bullet lists that are short and to the point work wonders for communicating points effectively in addition to the three tips you mentioned above.
Ronblogger
October 7th, 2009 8:15 am
These principles should be implemented on our blogs for a better communication
Honey
October 7th, 2009 10:27 am
Great post…thanks
Graeme Bowman
October 7th, 2009 10:40 am
Having worked with Brett Rutledge, as a fellow professional speaker and comedian, I can vouch for both his credibility and stage presence – he ticks all the boxes. And, like Monet, he is one of the great impressionists, although Brett does it with voices rather than paint.
In my other work as an Advanced Presentation Skills Coach, I stress that the very first thing a communicator needs to do is answer the following question that is always in the mind of their reader or listener, ‘Why should I be interested in you as a human being?’ It’s a person to person thing, nothing to do with ‘content’, and it has to come right at the start of your communication, before you get to the message itself, otherwise you’ve lost them.
What I’m saying here is particularly true for a new, unknown blogger, speaker, trainer, etc. A trusted, well respected communicator doesn’t have to start from scratch each time. But, for the person who is new to their audience, there are two aspects of ‘Make me Care’, the first being, ‘Make me care about YOU’, and the second being, ‘Make me care about your MESSAGE’.
In my own case, although I am well established within my profession, I commenced as a newbie blogger only yesterday, so in this area of my life I have to start from scratch. In my first few posts, I have to satisfactorily answer the question, ‘Why should I be the slightest bit interested in Graeme Bowman?’
This is why my first post, which I called, ‘OMG! u r 2 old 2 blog!’, gives some insight into me as a person and my sense of humour, etc. And because most of my early readers will be socialmedia savvy, arriving via Twitter, Facebook or Linkedin, I made the subject of the post one that will resonate with such folk. So there is a very deliberate attempt to make them care on both levels.
There is a proven model for structuring effective communication, that caters for all learning styles, called 4MAT. I sniffed around the web a bit, and for any of your readers who are interested in exploring the topic in greater depth, and who want to take their own communication to the next level, here is an intro to 4MAT (free, no need to subscribe, nothing to do with me)
http://www.aboutlearning.com/what-is-4mat.html
Cheers!
Tory McBroom
October 7th, 2009 11:45 am
One technique I try to implement in each post is to solve a problem for the reader, which could possibly fall somewhere between your “make them care” and “give them a way to remember” categories.
BNS
October 7th, 2009 4:06 pm
Good post. The 3-Ps are great! I’ll try to implement them :)
Jen | UPrinting
October 7th, 2009 4:41 pm
Great tips that are so simple (or at least look it) at the same time!
It would be cool if the third step was achieved through the second step – make them remember by making them care so much – but with our hectic everyday lives, that goal seems too idealistic, no? So yeah, it’s good to give readers something simple and straightforward to take action on right away, in the span of time it would take you to remember a phone number without any recording tools handy.
Jonny
October 7th, 2009 5:47 pm
If we put more energy on advertise we will lose Communication.
wes
October 7th, 2009 6:15 pm
Give them a Message, Make them Care and Give the a Way to Remember It…yes very good no great points to keep and model.
Oh and one more point….to spell check and recheck for typos:-) I think the last point is missing a letter. The I believe should be Them. I am just as or even more guilty in missing words and letters. It seems my brain is always much faster than my fat fingers.
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October 7th, 2009 6:57 pm
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October 7th, 2009 8:47 pm
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October 7th, 2009 8:52 pm
Great communicators uses simple form of communication. They use less words to convey more. That is the way for better communication. Good Article.
Jim
October 7th, 2009 11:06 pm
Even though you don’t want negative publicity on your site or blog, many times corporations actually get positive results from negative publicity, because the name is associated with the action which is easily remembered.
HiddenTreasures
October 7th, 2009 11:09 pm
As a graduate of communication myself, and a focus on persuasive speaking, the key elements are what Darren has suggested, plus more:
Attention Getter (Story, Question, Quote)
Importance – Why it is important to listen
Thesis
Preview of Topics
(Body)
Topic 1 – 3 with their sub-points
Conclusion w/ Action Step
End with a story
As a result of going to college for communication, organizing my blogs in a comprehendable and persuasive way, are easy to write with clarity.
I hope this helps! http://siddhalishree.com
Barbsawyers
October 7th, 2009 11:36 pm
Well saidl. Here are my tips on writing to help people remember. http://barbsawyers.wordpress.com/2009/04/16/memory-glues-and-cues/
Berita Semasa
October 7th, 2009 11:48 pm
That’s rite. So yeah, it’s good to give readers something simple and straightforward to take action on right away, in the span of time it would take you to remember a phone number without any recording tools handy.
Stage Drama
October 8th, 2009 12:08 am
Communication is one of the important thing, we should care about.
Karen, author of "My Funny Dad, Harry"
October 8th, 2009 12:28 am
These are 3 great points for effective communication. After watching “The Biggest Loser” yesterday, I still remember a couple tips they gave briefly at commercial breaks: substitute cauliflower for potatoes (I remember because I am trying to eat healthier and love mashed potatoes) so I cared, and the other was two easy exercises for your back for people who sit at a desk all day (like me) so again it made me care and I remember them: tabletop and supermans. I even did them today!
Suzanne Vara
October 8th, 2009 2:00 am
Making people care enough to take action is always the challenge. Solving their problem many times will not have them comment as they got the info they needed and now have moved on to the next thing.
I have found that engaging people who have commented on the blog off the blog by sending them an email tends to get them to come back and engage in conversation,
Ray @ The Stock market Club
October 8th, 2009 3:27 am
Make them care……I am here to help you.
John Bardos - JetSetCitizen
October 8th, 2009 3:43 am
Getting people to remember a message is key.
This is what story telling is all about. The problem is that there is a fine line between exaggerated hype and a compelling story. It has to sound authentic, yet be heroic. It is tough to do.
I definitely think that story telling is underrated in business. Everyone needs a story or elevator pitch.
Glenn Murray
October 8th, 2009 8:24 am
Great post, Darren. There are so many rules and tips in writing, that it’s hard for beginners to remember them all. These ones are simple and easy to remember – maybe a lead-in to the lower level rules. They apply equally to copywriting too.
Vivek [All About Presentations]
October 8th, 2009 2:25 pm
On Making People Care
You (the author) is more passionate about your message than your audience. You need to remember this fact. Hence, to make people care, ask yourself this question: “Why should the audience read my message? Why should they even bother?”
Be critical of your own content and evaluate it dispassionately. Then only will you be able to make someone else care.
I remember reading another way by which you can make people care. Authors of the book Made to Stick say, “To make someone care about X, first know what they actually care about now. Use this information and relate X to what they already care about.”
To keep Texas clean, TV Commercials were run by the authorities. If they had just said, “Keep Texas clean”, none would have bothered. So the message that was crafted was – “Don’t mess with Texas”. The message and the way it was crafted made people relate to it. It was said in a ‘Texan’ way and people responded to the campaign and that made it a success.
Regards,
Vivek
http://www.allaboutpresentations.com
zhangliang
October 8th, 2009 5:17 pm
Darren according to you which way will be suitable so that they keep remember your post.
I just involve their love ones so that they can imagine their faces … so far this one is really working to me. Sometime I leave some emotional wording as well.
SeoNext
October 8th, 2009 9:26 pm
Communication is one of the key factors that determine the success of a mentoring relationship, and conflicts often result from misunderstandings regarding differences in communication styles. The following checklist may help you to evaluate whether you communicate effectively and indentify areas for improvement.Great post.
deakaz
October 8th, 2009 10:42 pm
very interesting, personally I think the key to good communication is “listening” is you perfect that, then you can respond accordingly. If you work on your communication skills, it will lead to less misunderstandings and probably less conflict.
Brian J Cody, author
October 9th, 2009 3:59 am
Getting our readers to take action is always a difficult task. One thing to remember is that readers do not care about you, their main focus is; What is in it for me?
A reader will only take action if they feel that your information will be a benefit to them. So your articles need to identify their problems and show the reader solutions to their problems.
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Asswass
October 9th, 2009 7:58 am
I’ve always hear that an effective communication needs to be like an elevator pitch. Imagine you’re taking the elevator on a building and suddenly Obama, the Pope, Darren Rowse (lol) or any person you admire hops on and wants to go to the 5th floor. You know that you only have 3 floors to get his attention; what would you say??????
Lydia, Clueless Crafter
October 9th, 2009 8:55 am
I believe this is called a Mnemonic device.
Does alliteration count? I use it all the time, but wonder if it is cliche!
I mean I chose the name Clueless Crafter, which I think is catchy and memorable?
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October 9th, 2009 4:17 pm
Effective communication and better relationships is the lifeblood of a successful organization. Great Article..
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October 9th, 2009 9:40 pm
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Tessa Carroll
October 10th, 2009 1:12 am
Boiled down, if you want to effectively reach your target audience, all you need are these three things.
The keys to building, and maintaining, a strong relationship and encouraging others to continue to listen to your message are really quite simple. You don’t need to use tons of technical jargon or flowery sentences. All you really need to do is tell them what’s in it for them, and why it’s a good thing.
Tessa Carroll
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umar
October 11th, 2009 7:08 am
Efficectively describe the communication principles
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October 12th, 2009 3:34 pm
I can see what you mean about making them care though and it’s something I may put a little more emphasis on in the future. Without overdoing it of course.
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October 12th, 2009 9:06 pm
Communication is the way to success. All the great leaders can communicate, and they get the masses moving.
It goes the same for bloggers who want to make your readers do what is best for them.
Thanks, Darren.
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October 12th, 2009 11:52 pm
The keys to building, and maintaining, a strong relationship and encouraging others to continue to listen to your message are really quite simple. You don’t need to use tons of technical jargon or flowery sentences. All you really need to do is tell them what’s in it for them, and why it’s a good thing.
Ares
October 13th, 2009 12:29 am
This is valuable information. Sounds simple, the idea. Very hard to get just right, though. Thanks for the blueprints you provide on this blog!
Peta
October 13th, 2009 5:34 pm
Great Post, and makes me think am I getting the readers who care as often as I could or should…. Thanks for getting me to re – think and revise. I have content to help people in my niche, but I am sure I can get more interaction …
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Jason Cronkhite
October 15th, 2009 3:08 am
Having read the above post and comments you guys might consider reading So What?: How To Communicate What Really Matters to Your Audience. It’s a great book for anyone trying to influence others.
You’ll learn that it’s tough but true, that the people you are trying to communicate with, sell to or convince don’t really care about you until they understand how it will benefit them.
The book shows you how to answer what the author calls the So What Question and shows you how to develop a So What Mindset in all your communication. I first found out about it on Mixergy and there is a great interview there with blogger Andrew Warner >> http://mixergy.com/so-what-magnacca/ . I hope this helps. Oh, there is also free chapter at http://www.sowhatbook.com.
Ciao, Jason
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October 24th, 2009 9:47 pm
Cheers! They look great, but certainly glad that this particular journey is “fini” for now!
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October 28th, 2009 7:40 pm
I think you don’t need to use tons of technical jargon or flowery sentences. Thanks.
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October 31st, 2009 8:15 pm
For sure you managed to explain and practice the first two principles pretty well. Just like you I am very curious about the 3rd one in relation to blogging. How to make them think?
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