I mean, I didn’t think I was that amazing.

in my defense, I do this for fun – not for money, or ego. But it would be nice to know that someone is reading.

I have been blogging since Sept 2007 and I’m still learning more and more each day about the blogosphere.

I did start off being a little too apologetic but I quickly changed. I have only a few readers right now but it doesn’t stop me from using my posts as springboards for publishing articles as well as a way to think out loud and clarify my thoughts on various subjects.

I am currently reading a fabulous book which ties in nicely to what you are talking about. It’s called, “Egonomics” (http://www.readegonomics.com/). The authors talk about the 3 pillars of a healthy ego as being 1) Humility 2) Curiosity 3) Veracity.

Maybe the problem here is not a Blogger inferiority complex. Blogs reflect who the blogger is, so the problem might simply be a lack of confidence in the blogger.

I think that everyone should feel that they have something worthwhile to contribute and whether or not they are as popular as Seth Godin should have nothing to do with how or what they say.

Thanks for the post!

Steve

And the fractal brothers comment made me laugh!

I just want to be the best I can be!

Being positive is the best we can do, the limit is our imagination, keep it in mind.

There is no such thing as a “small fry”. If you have something to say, please say it. Others will comment to you and you engage with them in productive dialog.

Communication is a self fulfilling prophecy!

My blog offers mostly timeless writing, but once a month I post a blogging journal with an update on what I did and didn’t accomplish. Most importantly, at the end of the post, I have a list of goals to accomplish for the next month. Even if I don’t get everything done, I don’t feel bad, I celebrate what I did accomplish, and work on the other items for the following month. Sincerely, Amanda

@Barabara-I love your Bach quote.

Yes, bloggers are humans too and sometimes we feel low when we seem to be not reaching our goal.

But we should not show it within our blog or to other bloggers. They will feel the same too.

This has been my goal in life. I do not make self-pity in front of others. I do when I am alone and afterward, review myself and think of what to do next.

I think to overcome this feeling, we should never compare ourselves to someone else, higher or lower.

The best thing one should do is to compare yourself to yourself. By doing this, you may be able to realize your mistake and correct it.

In addition, if you compare yourself to the lower ones, you tend to be overconfident.

I would like to end this comment with my favorite saying:

“Failure is never fatal, success is never final”

Thanks.

They define themselves in terms of who they are and who they are becoming (all positive things) rather than in terms of who they are not (negativity).

Whether you call it inferiority complex, lack of belief, lack of confidence, poor self-esteem, whatever, it is all the same thing.

To be successful, define yourself in terms of who you are and who you are becoming. Always move forward, don’t look backward. If you tell yourself (and your readers) that you are NOT capable of doing something, your mind (and your readers) will believe that.

Those are the types of subjects I write about and speak about all the time.

Good post, keep up the good work.

MrAchievement
Stanley Bronstein
Attorney, CPA, Author, Blogger & Professional Motivational Speaker

Thanks for starting this discussion, Darren.

This is a powerful and important post. Thank you.

One thought on avoiding negativity is to set the goal of making each post informative, inspiring, empowering or enlightening. Pointing out our flaws and shortcomings can help readers feel a common bond and show humility, but we can’t leave it there. When we impact readers lives in a positive way we fulfill blogging’s greatest potential.

It’s vitally important to use mistakes and shortcomings as opportunities for growth and calls to action, not turning them into millstones.

As you say, the word is ‘humility’. Unceasing, vocally self-obsessive contempt is another form of arrogance, I think. After all, we all can, and do, get things wrong all the time.

The most successful people in the world are motivated by their ‘nots’…..they just don’t wallow in them.