Fara – http://www.pickmeuptoday.com

I was talking recently about ways that we can write to create rapport with our readers, and, in the longer term to build a relationship of trust. This is linked to the concept of pacing and leading – starting ‘where…

I’m working on a series of articles for bloggers to help them become more “writerly.” I’ll check in when they’re ready, maybe your readers would like them.

Keep it flowing everyone,
Suzanna Stinnett

Hey Darren,

Yeah, in theory – but that’s just not how it works in real life. :-)

Physical attraction is such a strong built-in imperative that it kicks in from the beginning for people we are attracted to.

Seriously, agreed completely from the blog standpoint. I think Aaron Wall’s SeoBook.com is a prime example of a blog that really delivers value while promoting a product and a service.

Have an awesome day!
Dan

– Supertramp

1. Approach your date and use a bad one liner that is slightly offensive. “I have the best blog on the planet, so love it or leave it.”

2. Go right in for the kiss. “Hey idiot, buy an expensive ebook before you read any posts. Limited time offer!”

3. Take her for a night on the town to a hot dog dinner and bowling, while making her pay for everything. The equivalent to stealing blog content and giving little or no credit to original authors.

4. Taking her to your place. “Subscribe to my RSS”.

5. You make an unwanted advance & woman demands you take her home and she never ever sees you again. Getting your blog banned or shut down.

But hey, what do I know? It seems to work for rock stars.

Building a relationship with your readers involves writing everyday, reading other blogs and commenting on those blogs because you are part of that community. If you are going to create a blog for the simple purpose of promoting your product then you might as well spend the money and advertise with Adwords (etc..) and send your traffic directly to your sales page.

I just referred your blog to a newbie blogger who just started her blog today because I encouraged her to take that leap. I know how helpful you’ve been to your readers, particularly the newer ones. Even though I’ve been blogging a little over a year (Adversity University), I still consider myself new to the world of blogging. Every day I learn something new. What you see there is the result of months of tweaking, upgrading, updating and more of the same.

It was therefore I read your latest entry with a mixture of amusement and admiration. I certainly relate to the need of courting our readers slowly. You don’t want to ask for a kiss so soon in the game, how true!

My blog is about overcoming adversity because as a profoundly deaf person, I’ve had my share of it. Ever since I left the world of Wall Street in 1996, I’ve felt called to share my experiences with others and blogging is a wonderful way of publishing my thoughts, observations, tips and experiences with others. Just like you have.

Darren, you certainly lead the pack with the notion of putting your readers first and then keeping them for the long haul. No one likes to be “sold” so soon in the game.

I agree wholeheartedly with the idea of romancing the reader in the least threatening way. If a blogger stays in the game long enough, he/she is building trust – a key ingredient that will come in handy if and when the blogger has a book or some other kind of service to be sold down the road. The readers will naturally progress to the stage where they will WANT a piece of you and one way of doing that is purchasing a book or product that the blogger might have available.

Kudos to you Darren!

Sincerely,
Stephen Hopson
http://www.sjhopson.com

I’m saying to myself ‘if he’s written this, what else has he written?’ ‘Where is he coming from?’ ‘Why haven’t I come across him before’ – especially since I’ve picked up from the comments that you’ve been blogging for three years.

What are you selling? I don’t know, and that’s what interests me. You sound like a person whose company I might enjoy and find enriching. And that’s what I want from anyone with whom I do business. Whatever the product on offer, the real opportunity, as far as I’m concerned, is the possibility of a new relationship within which I may come to know myself and others better. I’m probably an extreme type: one who is most interested in the potential that lies unrevealed in the project.

I’ll be back again soon, so see if you had a lucky day, or whether I rightly sense all your DNA in this post.
Keep well.

Darren, you hit the nail on the head. It is true sometimes people mix up strategy and tactic.

Although people want to make money (strategy) but this strategy can result in people trying to kiss too soon ( wrong tactic).

I believe the same as what you say. I want to connect deeper with my readers who go to my blog. Because I believe every single person out there who is willing to make 1 step to improve their lives deserve me to spend time and energy to blog for that day.

I market a music product called Attraction Accelerator which have helped me to increase my focus and energy in what I am doing. I highly recommend it in my blog and share my experiences about it is because it works for me. This same pdt is used and created by Stephen Pierce. He shares in his video how this pdt helps people:-
http://secretofunlimitedprosperity.com/19/attraction-accelerator-a-word-from-the-creator/

But whether my reader think/suspect it can work for them, I leave for them to decide.

So I don’t want to kiss too soon. I too enjoy a relationship that is long and fulfilling and when my readers are ready to kiss, I am sure they know which lips to find.

Cheeky, Karen

It’s important to hear that you just can’t slap something out there and expect people to flock to your site. You have to work at earning their trust and loyalty.

Thanks Darren!

I know the readers on this site are great too and if anyone can give me any help, I’d greatly appreciate it!

(I’m a newb with all this!)

Here’s my site! http://seamles.blogspot.com/

Let me know if I can help you out anyway.

Until I read this post had I thought about creating an e-book for other book reviewers or for newbie authors who don’t understand book marketing.

Authors should also understand that just because you write a book people will flock to Walmart to buy it. They may need a daily buzz from a trusted source that fits your products demographics.

Thanks again and thanks folks for the great comments.