Comments on: 10 Steps to Conflict Resolution

By: Karen Sherman, Ph.D.

Karen Sherman, Ph.D. — Tue, 30 Oct 2007 15:55:42 +0000

These are great tips! I also think it’s important for couples to know that there are skills to help them manage the inevitable conflicts they will have. As a matter of fact, how well a partnership does depends on how well conflict is managed. As a relationships expert, I offer a free teleseminar, “The 7 Tools to Manage Conflict Communication.” To hear it, go to: http://choicerelationships.com/teleseminar_resources

By: Yaris

Yaris — Tue, 15 May 2007 15:58:32 +0000

That last part, ‘Conflict isn’t a Bad Thing’, is what i’ve been lokking for. Not many people say this or rather admit it. I agree, without conflicts, how do we get by?

By: Sharon

Sharon — Fri, 29 Sep 2006 18:53:25 +0000

I’ve produced an article titled, “Dynamics of Group Polarization” in which I discuss how a group can easily become polarized in view, leading to conflict. Resolution is possible under a particular set of circumstances no matter the size of the group, which can be as small as two people and as large as a nation. So even in a one-on-one communication in a blog for instance, there can exist polarization and conflict that can be resolved under the same set of circumstances as would pertain to a larger group.

[http://www.sharonbender.com./polarization.html]

By: Conflict Resolution for Bloggers: How to Handle Negative Comments on Your Blog at Coachamatic

Mon, 25 Sep 2006 13:24:19 +0000

[...] I’ve noticed a recent flurry of “how to respond to negative comments on blogs” articles, including posts by ProBlogger’s Darren Rowse, Flyte’s Rich Brooks, and Lorelle VanFossen. Seth Godin wrote one on dealing with an angry customer that the Blog Herald adapted to commenters. I guess it must be on a lot of minds right now. [...]

By: links for 2006-09-15 at Shoob

links for 2006-09-15 at Shoob — Fri, 15 Sep 2006 08:30:25 +0000

[...] 10 Steps to Conflict Resolution As a basis for this post I want to share a 10 point process that I share with couples (which comes out of a resource by the ‘Prepare/Enrich’ marriage counselling program). These steps are designed for couples working through specific areas of conflict (tags: blogging conflict resolution) [...]

By: jhay

jhay — Thu, 14 Sep 2006 22:18:50 +0000

Conflicts resulting from blog posts or comments are quite rare in the Philippines. Only the serious pro-bloggers or business types get into such kind of conflicts. Ordinary bloggers know that when you have nothing good to say then say nothing at all or leave no comment behind.

It’s like a social bond that everyone understands and adheres to. Besides, rude comments are easily deleted by the concerned blog owners plus their blogs are littered with disclaimer notes detailing that they reserve the right to delete comments they deem defamatory or otherwise could start a conflict.

We Pilipino bloggers abhor conflicts even in the web, that’s why we only leave good and positive comments behind. If we have issues, most are decent enough to resolve it tru a personal e-mail, wait out what happens then blog about it.

By: Shonnie Lavender

Shonnie Lavender — Thu, 14 Sep 2006 16:10:09 +0000

Loads of wonderful and clearly-explained steps Darren. Number 9 is especially useful if you want to build long-term relationships. I have two add ons that I find very useful in real life (haven’t used them in the blogosphere yet).

In #3 you wrote, “Communicating to each other not only what the other person has done wrong…” Telling others that they are wrong generally leads to hurt feelings and defensiveness since most of us don’t like being wrong. In other words, if I say, “You shouldn’t have been late for our meeting,” this simply my judgment and likely is received as such. Instead if I choose to say, “When you didn’t show up on time for our meeting, it was easy for me to believe you didn’t value my time,” I’m telling the other person how I reacted to their action. This allows me to own that it’s my interpretation while giving them data to consider.

Regarding #10 I add: Most of us hear far more criticism in life than praise, so offering genuine appreciation is something that will make you stand out and pull people toward you. Having solid relationships in the first place makes conflict that much easier to resolve.

By: Bill McRea

Bill McRea — Thu, 14 Sep 2006 15:56:02 +0000

Blogging is a past time, by trade I am a CFO for a large pump manufacturer. By definition my daily job is dealing with constant conflict and conflict resolution. Your advice is sound when it comes to conflicts in blogging as well as conflicts in daily business life. Calm discussion can make a negative confrontation into a wonderful opportunity. I firmly beleive you can always turn a negative into a positive.

By: Scott Howard

Scott Howard — Thu, 14 Sep 2006 15:34:15 +0000

Conflict will happen and your correct Darren, it is not a bad thing. In many cases we can cause conflict by doing the right thing. Everyone is different in some way or another. If both people in a relationship where the same then one of the two is not really needed. And we know that is just not the case from what the Bible says.

By: Oscar

Oscar — Thu, 14 Sep 2006 15:16:54 +0000

lol. I love the Barbie hippie picture. I agree, discussion and conflict play a big role in blogging.

By: Ian Anderson

Ian Anderson — Thu, 14 Sep 2006 15:06:07 +0000

Great tips here. I’m always telling people to talk to their significant others when they are having problems. It is amazing how many people who just ignore them. This will definitely help people out if they follow this advice.