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Humanity Still Trumps

This post has been submitted by regular contributor – Aaron Brazell

I suppose this is somewhat of a tangent but if you bear with me, I believe this dovetails nicely with the focus of this blog. Last Friday, I went through one of the most terrifying situations a parent can go through – having surgery performed on a child. In my case, my son is two years old.

Sure, in my case, the operation was minor, and the doctors were the best doctors in the world, but nonetheless – no surgery is minor and no doctor is immune from making mistakes.

So after an agonizing period of waiting while specialists, anasthesioloigists, and nurses paraded over to check on him while we waited for the procedure to begin, they finally took him into the back room to sedate him. The poor child had a look of sheer terror on his face while the doctors tried to calm him. One nice inhale of “the gas” and a wide-eyed look put him in a deep sleep.

My wife and I were allowed to go and grab a bite to eat in the cafeteria and were summoned a short time later to come be with our son. He was coming out of his drug-induced sleep and had been numbed from the waist down as well, so he definitely wasn’t feeling pain – we were told.

As parents, we sat there with Devin holding him and stroking his hair. He was miserable and the heart strings were being tugged as we sat watching him in discomfort. As parents, this sort of thing is agonizing. You hate to see your child uncomfortable.

The nurse, who I am sure is very experienced and very knowledgeable, kept trying to calm us and tell us things like “He can’t feel anything”, “This is normal” and “he’ll go back to sleep for a bit”.

At one point, the nurse looked and said, “I’m going to give him another dose of the pain medicine. He shouldn’t be waking up so soon. At another time, the monitor went off because he wasn’t getting enough oxygen. So the nurse fetched him an oxygen mask and made a comment about how it was very odd that he wasn’t getting oxygen.

The point of this very long and windy entry is that people that run an internet business, including bloggers who are monetizing their blogs, can easily fall into a pattern of the expected. It’s relatively easy to read entries here at ProBlogger and other sites that talk about optimizing sites for search engines, how to make title tags efficient or how to garner the most traffic and ad revenue. Like this Johns Hopkins nurse, there are notable experts in fields that will make their wizardry seem easy. And following the advice of experts will usually put you ahead of the crowd.

However, the one factor that cannot be quantified, measured, explained or predicted is the human factor. Despite the fact that our blogs and businesses are internet-based, they are based in humanity – a humanity that is unpredictable, emotional and takes different shapes for different humans. Sometimes all the 10 step processes and tricks don’t work because there are humans in the picture messing the formulas up.

Fortunately for us as bloggers, one size doesn’t fit all and when one formula fails, chances are we can find one that works in our situation with our personalities.

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Comments

  1. Scot Newbury says:

    Aaron, as a parent who has also had a child go through surgery at a young age (my son was three) I feel for you and wish your son a speedy recovery.

  2. Pat Gundry says:

    I also wish your son a speedy recovery, and sympathize deeply with you as a parent. However, it sickens me to read about yet another genital mutilation of a child. I’m hoping that in the future more and more parents will refuse to inflict circumcision on their babies and children as information about the procedure, it’s history, and effects become more widely known.

  3. rols says:

    first of all I wish that your son get well soon. The good thing is that the operation went alright. I think you must be spending quite some time with your son now days! Its kind of difficult to imagine how one can find time for everything and on top of that write 5-10 posts daily. Today only I was thinking that how a full time blogger finds time for his family. I am still unable to figure out this.

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  5. Victor says:

    Ahh, the joys of going under. The last time I went under was for my wisdom teeth (a long while back). My father had to drive me home. He said all I did for the next hour was take really gigantic steps and make funny faces. lol.

    Anyway, wish you two the best, Aaron. I’m sure your son will recover well.

    Vic

  6. George Manty says:

    Aaron,

    I know how hard it is too watch your child go under. I have gone through it three times. Each time was with children under 2. Two times they were under the age of 1. Two of my children had a lot of their baby teeth grow in without enamel on them. So they had to go under (twice for one of them and once for the other), it was not pleasant. There is no getting used to holding your baby while the doctor injects him/her with medicine to put him/her under.

    Anyway, really good point you make in the post. All the best with your son’s recovery.

    George

  7. guy says:

    I’m sorry to hear that your son had to go through:
    * sheer terror
    * surgery
    * discomfort
    * pain
    * psychological scarring etc
    all for a procedure that has no health benefits and is mainly cosmetic.

    Atleast we got a blog post out of it.

  8. Leon says:

    True indeed. Glad your son made it out OK.

    http://mythoughts-onstuff.blogspot.com

  9. Tim says:

    I too know how hard it is to sit by while your child is having an operation. I pray that your son will get well soon.

    Great post about human nature. Oh so true and one that a lot of people should take very seriously.

  10. noemi says:

    I’m glad the operation went well. Your fears are valid. Hope your son gets better soon. On another note, talking about the human factor…The reason I blog is not to talk about myself but to give hope to parents who have experienced the ultimate tragedy- the loss of a child.

  11. maclean says:

    Glad to hear the operation went well. I agree totally with your observation on blogging. You pointed out something that most people miss out.

    Blogging unlike fashion or the latest blockbuster movie is here to stay, because the same humanity that threatens it is the same that gives it life.

  12. Thanks for your support, everyone. Devin’s doing fine. The doctors and nurses were amazing but even with the most skilled people in the world, sometimes little things get past them.

  13. Aaron,

    As parents, of seven children we understand how difficult it is for you to watch your child during sickness involving hospital stays. May he recover quickly.

    It’s stories like yours that inspired us to start our medical blog.
    We want parents to have medical information they need despite the human frailty inherently part of any medical treatment.

    Medical knowledge of “Primary Sources” for parents is paramount to to the decisions we make leading up to a medical procedure.
    But, all too often parents get the left overs, the waterdown version of complications associated with medical procedures, and treatments. We hope that changes by empowering parents with a medical education at home.

    Pete Hernandez

  14. noemi says:

    Pete: that would be a great project and will definitely help parents. we , parents need to be aware of medical procedures and teachers.