Comments on: Weddings, Blogging, Intentionality and one Whopping Big Tangent

By: Tell a Story - Rediscovering Your Blogging Groove Day 7

Tell a Story - Rediscovering Your Blogging Groove Day 7 — Mon, 23 Jul 2007 12:09:48 +0000

[...] Weddings, Blogging, Intentionality and One Whopping Big Tangent – one more tangent post [...]

By: Kathleen Fasanella

Kathleen Fasanella — Sun, 04 Dec 2005 20:23:40 +0000

Perhaps you’d be interested in knowing that my husband and I were married via blogging -the first people in history!

The state of Texas has a little known law governing “informal marriage”. For a marriage to be legal, we must publicly declare that we consider each other as spouses and this fact be known to other residents of the state of Texas. We got our certificate, announced the marriage via our blogs and have now fulfilled the requirements. We used the comments feature so people could “witness” our marriage.

http://www.fashion-incubator.com/mt/archives/marriage_by_movable_type.html
http://www.zianet.com/ehusman/weblog/2005/08/vows-by-trackback.html

By: jayvee f.

jayvee f. — Mon, 14 Nov 2005 01:49:46 +0000

im not yet married but i do see the point that getting into a relationship isn’t always about the good times. i guess investing time for understanding each other and paying attention to one another will eventually pay off :-)

By: Brad

Brad — Sun, 13 Nov 2005 04:04:42 +0000

Darren,I fin your post in depth, well thought out and very helpful! Thanks for all the information you are providing. I really do appreciate it!

By: anthony

anthony — Sun, 13 Nov 2005 00:59:25 +0000

great post from a problogger. I have been blogging for just over a month and it’s been frustrating and enjoyable at the same time.

frustrating because i have been trying to up my traffic but it is not happening easily.

enjoyable because I really like writing and my blog gives me an opportunity to do that.

you saying that it takes a lot of time and effort before my blog becomes successful gives me something to hold on to.

thanks man.

By: pcunix

pcunix — Sat, 12 Nov 2005 21:17:55 +0000

I can’t speak for Darren, but I can tell you that I enjoy writing for my blogs – I couldn’t work this hard at it if I didn’t!

It’s very hard for me to determine the monetary value of my blogging work because I get consulting income in addition to advertising, and I don’t know how much of the consulting is only because of blogging – I do know it is a significant amount, but the point is that it doesn’t really matter: I was doing it when it wasn’t earning me a dime and I’ll keep doing it after I retire from consulting.

By: Miho

Miho — Sat, 12 Nov 2005 15:41:06 +0000

Hello, Darren.
I really like your post. Sounds like you really enjoy with your blog, not just for money and search engine. I think it’s very important. I agree building blog and marriage are similar. My husband and I have been married 4 years. We were international married and we needed to do alot of things to get together.

I started my e-business through my interest since a year ago, and I’m still new to blog. Your blog is very informative. Thanks for your great post.

By: Jen

Jen — Sat, 12 Nov 2005 14:31:47 +0000

This business of people wanting “happily ever after” to happen automatically, or for the world to supply them with an “ATM-like” money-making formula… sheesh!

Chris and Dave, above, have said what I’m thinking and have done so infinitely better. So let me just add my thanks for another thought-provoking post, Darren — and this comment:

I have just celebrated 14 years of marriage to my business partner — double-barrelled intentionality? — and one thing I know for sure: that so-unattractive sense of gimme-gimme entitlement that travels with Sloth and Greed would have killed our partnership years back. An on-going effort at communication, with a focus on giving value for value, has to be the foundation of any on-going relationship — whether that’s beween blogger and visitors, or shopkeeper and customers, or Socrates and his students gathered beneath the tree to explore and learn through spirited debate…

Intentionality, yeah. Another little Post-it note goes up on the edge of my monitor, right now…

By: pcunix

pcunix — Sat, 12 Nov 2005 11:19:42 +0000

My wife and I have been married 38 years, and she’s still my best friend and closest confidante.

I’ve been doing web pages for eight years now. Your comments are on the mark: both marriage and blogging take work that many just won’t put into it.

By: Gloria

Gloria — Sat, 12 Nov 2005 01:09:18 +0000

Great post Darren! In both ways insightful. I felt there’s more to you than problogging! I was right. :-))

By: Read/Write Web

Read/Write Web — Fri, 11 Nov 2005 23:35:03 +0000

Melbourne Long Tail BBQ and podcast

Last night my friends in Melbourne held a Long Tail BBQ, as part of the worldwide Long Tail Camp. Seeing as I live across the ditch in New Zealand, I participated virtually via a Skype call – which Cameron Reilly…

By: Kamemada

Kamemada — Fri, 11 Nov 2005 21:02:40 +0000

Darren, can you marry me and my blog? I’m proposing tonite.

By: Kim Dushinski

Kim Dushinski — Fri, 11 Nov 2005 19:25:08 +0000

Great connection!

I love the concept of intention as it relates to blogging. It is so easy to start a blog these days, but keeping one going really takes some focus and intention. You’re right, the same is true of a marriage.

Thank YOU for keeping your intentions clear and sharing such great information about how to be a professional blogger.

By: vivek

vivek — Fri, 11 Nov 2005 18:36:54 +0000

I must agree with Dmitry

Work hard + Be honest + Little luck = Good money :)

By: Dmitry

Dmitry — Fri, 11 Nov 2005 17:15:50 +0000

There’s no easy way to earn money at all, I think.

By: khurrum

khurrum — Fri, 11 Nov 2005 15:42:52 +0000

Cool :D I guess we need to get married to our blogs.

By: Grant Griffiths

Grant Griffiths — Fri, 11 Nov 2005 15:41:37 +0000

It is refreshing from time to time to actually see a blogger act human and not always blog business. Thanks for the post and I had no idea you were trained as a “pastor”. Great concept, the Livingroom. Wonderful idea to see a group of believers come together in someone’s livingroom, have a cup of coffee and hold church.

By: Ignat

Ignat — Fri, 11 Nov 2005 15:23:04 +0000

Interesting comparison.

I am a collegiate rower and I see the same connection between rowing and blogging. I wake up everyday only to hurt and sweat for 3 hours and then head off to work, but everytime I think of how hard it is to push myself away from the comfort zone, I think of all the gold medals ahead.

Same thing goes for blogging or anything else that is effor-dependant. I blog with a vision which keeps me going.

By: CampusHound: $1 and counting… » Marriage and Blogging

CampusHound: $1 and counting… » Marriage and Blogging — Fri, 11 Nov 2005 15:08:15 +0000

[...] Darren Rowse’s post comparing marriage to blogging is rather interesting. While admitting that it could be a tangent from his normal content, he still does tie it back to his regular vein, and it is how that intrigued me. Is it really plausible to relate an age-old social and religious tradition to a relatively new concept of writing and media? At first I was skeptical, so I made an effort to take a closer look. [...]

By: Dave Starr

Dave Starr — Fri, 11 Nov 2005 14:46:23 +0000

I don’t think your tangent is too far off at all, Darren. In fact, the basics ought to be repeated again and again. The ‘how do I make an always full ATM’ moan is endemic in today’s world were (certainly in the US if not in other countries) ‘work’ is regarded as the activity of the loser or the disenfranchised.

Whenever I read anything about a blogger or other entrepreneur having various degrees of on line success I can almost always be sure that someone will jump in with ‘oh _why_ couldn’t your success have been mine, poor me’, etc.

It won’t happen without work. The beauty of the on line environment is that the work doesn’t involve a pick and shovel, but it’s work, none the less. I’ve been tinkering around the periphery of the ‘for pay’ blogging world for a couple weeks now and I can clearly see the writing on the wall that the single thing I am lacking most is posting .. got to get on a regular schedule .. and that takes time .. and work.

Been married for many years now and throughly enjoy that, but guess what .. it takes work too. I hope a few people who read your thoughts get on the work bandwagon ..and also, work at the marriage before the blog .. got to have priorities straight,